What Has Your Dog Taught You?

 

What Has Your Dog Taught You?

“In order to really enjoy a dog, one doesn’t merely try to train him to be semi-human. The point of it is to open oneself to the possibility of becoming partly a dog.” – Edward Hoagland

Since I started this journey with Link, I've learned many lessons.

In the beginning, you are teaching your dog the "rules" of the environment. Don't chew on shoes, stay off counters, don't use your sharp little daggers on soft living things.

As time progresses, we work in greater depth together. We go from teaching skills to teaching concepts.

I started noticing that while modifying Link's behavior, he was also modifying mine. This is where we see that relationships are a "give and take" equation. A healthy relationship combines meeting the needs of the "other", while also having your own needs met. This also includes compromise, "meeting in the middle."

I've learned by working at Link's pace, I could help him feel more confident and secure. This led to higher engagement, more positive experiences, and less overall stress. These are crucial feelings for living in an unfamiliar world.

I've learned the importance of communication. By improving our communication skills, we can develop a more positive, uplifting relationship together.

I learned that when dogs provide each other with information, such as displeasure, they communicate it. What amazes me is the SECOND the unwanted behavior or condition changes, they move on from it as well. Communicate your needs. Go with the flow. Don't dwell on things we cannot control.

I've learned that progress is progress. Setting unrealistic expectations does not help. Are you making progress? Is the process enjoyable for both of you? If so, just keep going.

I've been focusing on "mindfulness" lately. Attempting to minimize anxieties about the future, and preventing myself from fixating on negative events from the past. Link has given me an outlet to focus on the present. While we are interacting, it's just us, nothing else.

From being a hermit gamer, to now going on hikes, walking trails, parks to play and train, or even out in the backyard. Being outside more frequently has had great mental health benefits.

Don't stress over mistakes. It's how you respond to them that matters. Link has made many "mistakes", as have I. What's important is what we can learn from those mistakes. If the intention was positive, was it even a mistake?

I give as much as I can to Link, and he does the same. I think it's working out pretty well.

"Be a friend. Not an owner."